Please know that your dad's hate runs so deep for me, he hired an attorney to send me a "Cease and Desist" Letter regarding Jacob. All this because I dared to send Jacob my email giving him a way to contact me, if he so desired.
Yes, after seventeen long years of not knowing where my grandson was, I found he moved to my city to go to college. However, the cease and desist letter said if I ever tried to contact Jacob again, I would be charged with "stalking."
But, I don't believe it was Jacob who had this letter sent by a lawyer, but rather your tyrannical father; Jacob's grandfather; my ex. In fact, Amy, (my oldest daughter) confirmed this to me about two days ago. That it was her dad and his wicked, wicked sister who sought the help of an attorney to keep me away from my grandson. BTW: Did you know his sister, your Aunt, had two children and aborted them both (one at 32 weeks and had him burned in an incinerator instead of burying him) but tries to take over other people's children to fill the void in her own life.
I know how your dad (Jacob's grandfather) is because that was the way he was when I was married to him, and the very reason I divorced him. For eighteen long years I endured his emotional (and some physical) abuse until the time came I could afford to get out on my own.
All this hate is because he didn't want the divorce. He's has fostered and festered such a hate for me during the past twenty years. He is so consumed with wanting to hurt me all the time, nothing else matters! You know what they say, "there's a fine line between love and hate." But, this is the crazed idiot's way of getting back at me. Keeping me forever from seeing my own daughter, and from the joy of knowing my oldest grandson.
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Charles, if you read this, please know I am no longer afraid of you as I was when I was married to you. You belittled and abused me for eighteen long and miserable years. I was so afraid you would kill me with the gun you had, and threatened me with. But, I faced the awful truth before I filed for divorce because you know what? I found I would rather be dead than to live with a tyrant like you for the rest of my life. What an evil person you are! I am so happy to be away from you and never have to look at your evil face again!
Melissa, after Jacob told me what his dad did to him (sexually), at Amy's insistence (he told her as well), she video-taped Jacob telling me again what his dad did to him. (He told YOU what Ed did to him, too, so you knew already!) Even though it was difficult to smile in the video while he was telling me these awful things, if I didn't smile, he closed off and would stop talking.
Amy said if we did the video, "people would have to believe us!" So, I did. But, thanks to lies, lies, and more lies from Ed, his Mom, your dad, Sharon, and Dallas, they didn't.
For me, it ended there when you left. Other than sending Jacob an email, I've done nothing else.
That's the whole truth of it.
Anything else your dad has made up just to get back at me. Amy says he tells everyone I am "crazy" and that I wanted to "steal your child." Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me? Think about it. I was unemployed at the time. I didn't even know how I would pay the rent much less buy things a child requires.
I love Jacob, but I raised my children and had absolutely no desire to raise my grandchild.
If you research pedophiles, you will find all kinds of information on them. About the way they groom people and children around them so if ever they are caught they can say, "see I told you so."
One of those lies told to you (among many by Ed), I remember distinctly. Long before Jacob was born, you told me " Ed says our baby will be so beautiful, everybody will want to steal him from us!" Remember that? I always laughed when you told me that, thinking it a ridiculous statement, but I guess you weren't kidding! That was a setup if ever there was one. That way, if I ever discovered the real truth, that he molested his own child and told you, all he had to say is I was lying so I could "steal your child!"
And, this is exactly what happened! I told the truth and he said to you, "I told you she wanted to steal our child!"
Then, your dad stepped in for full payback. You two had been married for three and a half years and your dad was so angry at him for getting you pregnant, he didn't have anything to do with him or you until the day you went to your dad for help to get away from Ed. Melissa, your dad saw the opportunity for payback, and from there on out, he used you and Jacob as pawns simply for payback for the divorce he didn't want.
What kind of a person is that? What kind of a dad would do that??? He is as bad as Ed to tell all these lies, and cover for Ed, his perverted son-in-law. Sadly, the one time I talked to your dad, after you left, he said he didn't care that Ed was molesting his child, his own grandson! Instead, he crowed that "usually when a person files a complaint with Child Services for an investigation, it is really difficult to stop, but he continued, "I was able to stop it by knowing people - judges and lawyers and the head of Juvenile Services - who were able to stop it." He was so proud of himself. But I ask you again...WHAT kind of a person does that?
ALL he cared about was that he found a way to punish me. And, punish me he has. Knowing how much I love you and Jacob, he has lied and has nearly decimated my heart at the huge loss of you two. You know I truly understand the grief of those left bereft by the World Trade Center bombings. One day that person is in your life and the next they are gone. Nothing left, not even bodies to mourn.
Melissa/Jacob, please don't allow your dad/grandfather to continue to use you as pawns, as paybacks! You are worth far, far more to me than that. You are precious and special to me. I call you my prodigal daughter as I truly believe that one day you and Jacob will come back to me.
Please call. If I am not here, feel free to leave a message. I would be so glad to hear from you.
Love,
Mom/Nana
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